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No One Deserves Abuse!
Every woman's story is different, but all women have the right to live fulfilling, hope-filled, and productive lives free from terror, intimidation, and abuse.
Why I Wrote this Book?
I am T. Ann DeCarlo, a survivor of domestic abuse. A few years after escaping my abuser, I began to question the whole abuse experience. I started with what attracted me to this man in the first place and what forces kept me with him for so long. My attempts to answer these, and the many questions that followed, marked the beginning of a years-long journey of research and discovery. What I learned changed how I looked at the world, relationships, and, most importantly, myself.
As time went on, I realized if I had access to this information back then, I would have, at best, walked away from my future husband long before we married. At worst, I would have left my marriage years before I did. Either way, I would have avoided untold amounts of misery.
When I realized that the fruits of my journey could help others embark on their own path, I began creating No More Abuse. By drawing on my years of experience as an abused spouse, the insights I gained through therapy, my exploration of various methods of healing, and the expertise of numerous trained experts on the subject, I give fellow abused women the tools and knowledge I wish I had when I needed them.
To learn more about the author and to explore the table of contents, click "More" at the top of this website.
Topics Explored in No More Abuse:
- How an abuser slowly changes his partner's status from person to possession, and why no woman can ever meet his ever-changing, unrealistic, cruel expectations
- How to realistically assess your situation and determine the level of danger posed by your relationship
- Why couples counseling with an abusive partner is not recommended, and why the mental state of abusers makes their chances of rehabilitation and change slim to none
- How one phone call can connect you with free services that help you create a plan, escape safely with your kids and pets, file a restraining order, relocate, get a divorce, and obtain the skills and resources you need to begin again
- How to acknowledge and embrace your basic relationship rights, create and maintain boundaries, and avoid past mistakes
- How to navigate safely in today's dating world, investigate a potential partner via the Internet, and choose a truly good man
From My Heart to Yours
Thank you for choosing this book. I hope it opens the door to freedom, healing, and a new life for you and, if you are a mom, for your children. May that life be overflowing with love, support, kindness, joy, and lots of laughter.
T. Ann DeCarlo.
National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233
Available 24/7/365
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Articles from DomesticShelters.org
"A well-researched, comprehensive roadmap to freedom, this book is a must-read for anyone seeking the way out of an abusive relationship. I wish it had been available when I needed it. It is spot on."
- Rose Booth
Abuse survivor and strong,
independent woman
This is a book that should be put into everyone’s hands, for it serves two purposes. First, it educates all those who know nothing about spouse abuse; secondly, it educates those who may not know they are being abused or are actively living with an abuser and have not found an escape route. The book is precise, objective, and well-written, with advice gained from experience for how to escape circumstances and build a new and independent life. This author found the courage to do that for herself and to write a book that would help others gain an optimistic future.
- B.J. Hart
Feldenkrais Practitioner and Poet
"Well thought out and well researched. A straightforward sharing of experience and advice that will both touch readers and move them to action. The author’s honest and heartfelt intentions come through clearly."
- Dawn Murphy
Author of Separate No More: Inviting Peace, Embracing Diversity & Creating
a Positive Future
"A thorough, comprehensive, and inclusive book for the women of the world. It will be immensely helpful to those who have been abused and neglected or have ever felt like a victim.
What a gift!"
- Cath DePalma
Author of I Can Do This Thing Called Life: And So Can You! and Energize Your Creative Super Powers: 7 Ways to Spiritual Fitness
"A fantastic book. Transforming. I couldn't stop reading. The vast majority of my clients are abused women. I will recommend this book to all of them!"
- Kathleen L. Quinlan, LMT
Transformational Heart and Soul Healing
"Filled with helpful resources, No More Abuse provides insight and practical advice from a woman who faced domestic abuse and stared it down. I wish this book had been available when I was counseling parishioners and clients suffering from abuse."
- Rev. Allen E. Schenk (ret.), M.Div., STM
Clinical Fellow AAPC, Clinical Diplomat APA.
